I started off pretty mad and depressed right after I realized that this company had no chance to turn around. I should have started looking for a new job up north, as there was no question in my mind that I wanted to go back. All my friends and family are there so it was a no brainer. I didn’t though, and it was extremely stupid and immature of me. I guess it’s part of my learning process, to do dumb things along the way. I know for some who were fired or laid off there isn’t really any time, but for those of you who are planning on leaving for whatever reason, LOOK FOR A NEW JOB, before you leave. It’s the smart thing to do.
What I Did After
So…after a few more days of being depressed, I slowly picked myself up, and got the courage to tell my parents. It was extremely shitty, but surprisingly they were supportive, as they had always preferred me to be closer to home. You could tell the disappointment, especially with my mother. After that conversation, I had to figure out where to stay, which didn’t take long. My sister was really my only viable option who wouldn’t drive me insane. I mean don’t get me wrong she does that too, but to a lesser extent than anyone else I could have lived with at the moment. She agreed to allow me to stay with her, but she’s one of the nicest people ever, so I was never worried she would say no. She even helped drive down with me when I moved to Miami, and then back up too! So I gave my self a couple weeks to pack my things, say my goodbye, and enjoy the last of it all down in Miami.
In those last couple weeks, I met the most amazing person ever, my wife Eileen, which I will post about later. So anyways, after that I was on my way home with my sister. I feel bad still because we were going to stop by Disney World before going home, but I really wasn’t in the mood. I was still reeling from this job situation, so I just wanted to get home as quickly as possible and move on. Let me tell you, it took a long while. I mopped around my sister’s place, and wasn’t trying that hard to look for a new job. I was just in lazy depressed Eric mode. I ended up going back down to Miami to stay with Eileen for a bit. After a while Eileen lit a fire up my ass forcing me to look for a job. That really helped, and I did, but I should have taken the step out the door quicker.
I found a job that I ended up hating. Maybe I didn’t try as hard, or I just got desperate. Time wasn’t on my side. It’s hard to stay a float and not dip into your savings without a job. That’s why I emphasize so much to look for a job as soon as you know you are going to be out of one. I only stayed there for a year and went to another job, but this time around I knew what to do, and a found a job that I don’t hate, sometimes you just can’t win, but one day…
What I Learned
I realized that sulking non-stop wasn’t going to fix anything. I had to be proactive. As I mentioned before start looking for a job ASAP. Also don’t forget to file for unemployment as that can help keep you afloat longer if need be, and make sure your health insurance is active as long as possible as you never know what can happen. Updating your resume, Linked-In account any other avenues you plan on using accordingly. Networking is key as well, the more people I met the more opportunities I opened up for myself. It also helped motivate me to try harder as you are able to see how there are so many happy successful people out there, and that if they could do it there was no reason why you couldn’t either. Don’t be afraid to ask for help as well, you will be surprised how many people are willing to lend a hand.
Budgeting was another big thing for me. I had to stop going out as much, splurging on random things. I know everyone’s financial situation is different, but this was really big for me. Even if you have the job right after you leave your previous one, you never know what can happen, and if you will even last at your new position. I know there are plenty other things you could do, and you should scour other sites as well, and I would definitely like to hear others’ input on this too. But another extremely important thing is to not get discouraged. It’s easy to hide and sulk like I first did, but you just have to take that step out the door quickly, put the time and effort in, so you can realize it’s not so bad as you imagined it would be.